i think the really hard thing for you as an adult in this situation is that you can see the full picture, so of course you want to fix it. my advice is to try not to get too involved, because you might have the tools but you won't be able to use them for anything other than clogging the gears (boom!). only they can fix it, and maybe they're really at a stage when they can't, idk. i don't know about your parents but my mum never takes my advice (unless someone else offers her the same advice at a later date, grrr it's infuriating), i think it's just a parent thing. i'm saying this because the best case scenario would be to keep your relationship with both parents intact, which means not antagonising one or the other, which is really hard to avoid if you're too involved.

remaining friends is definitely the best case scenario. i'm kind of just boggling at it, because your parents lasted so long and, well, no one wants to be alone as they grow older. and it's not like one of them is cheating or beating the other up (..er i really hope not. & believe me this is super traumatic & involves The Law & other horrid things), as in they don't have another relationship to turn to. i just say this because my mother is bitterly lonely, and my father is marrying (we're all wtf about the marrying...) a control freak.

if there's one thing i understand it's divorce!

awwww i'mma be on your photo wall~ let's take lots. we should record a video blog too. me and kriss did that and i always watch back over it and grin.

That's really good advice, and now that I've heard from both of them I think I just need to step back and let them sort things out for themselves. You're right about the tools, all the helpful advice in the world isn't going to do anything if they're not interested in hearing it, and it's best not to come from me anyway.

I know, it just kind of seems STUPID to break up after 36 years. It's like, don't you REALISE how nice it is to have a partner? Apparently my Dad's sister said to him, "Love? Love! I haven't been in love for 20 years!" (She's been in a relationship now for about 4 years XD) Getting some flatmates doesn't really compare!

-_-;;; the specialist! But seriously, thanks heaps, that's really good solid advice.

Yus! You actually are already nominally on my photo-wall, but I'm not going to tell you how you'll have to see for yourself. Video-blog could happen! I'd just have to like... put a bag over my head. But that would kind of be AWESOME.

Yup (:

Fuck, 36 years. Wow. They're gonna quickly realise how not-fun it is without one, just saying. Maybe that's the reality check they need, idk.

♥

O: this makes me feel both honoured and mildly anxious! I am not letting you put a bag over your head, hmmph.